Internet dating game
And despite enjoying a handful of dates, 24-year old Patricia B.feels that online dating is "a little bit like picking someone out of a catalog.Apparently it is easier for scammers to work their magic long-distance, where it is more challenging for them to get caught. While scams are often local, many come from abroad.Keep on the lookout for hardship stories: This person should be courting you, not asking for an emergency handout! Upload a potential date's photograph on Tin Eye, which will let you see where else on the Internet the photo has appeared. Their messages are filled with bad grammar and often have an odd tone.With hundreds, even thousands of hours of trial & error required before getting the hang of what to say, when to say it, how to say it, and who to say it to; it’s no wonder so many men quit online dating.But for the guys who are willing to buckle down and put in the hard yards, get advice, or simply outsource, a numbers game approach can make online dating work for just about anyone.Here are a few safety tips you should know before you go looking for love online, with some reassurances from seasoned "virtual" daters. Wait until you actually meet the person and build up a level of trust before you share your address, phone number or real email address.
So naturally, the idea of a man getting through to them with a “numbers game” approach, is anything but romantic. But in reality, the means (numbers game) has absolutely nothing to do with a mans interest level in a given woman (one night stand, marriage, etc.). Numbers game just happens to be the most effective, natural way for a man to meet the right woman. Shhhh…this is the secret that paid online dating websites don’t disclose.Like John Travolta’s character Danny Zuko in Grease, the men of today (and yesteryear) all labour through the trials of dating under the misguided notion that “playing it cool” gets the girl. Well, if the dating game today is anything to go by, then apparently we do. Following “The Rules” that state that you cannot seem too interested in a guy is probably the wrong way to go about getting your man. Do we really think that “treat ’em mean to keep ’em keen” is really all it’s cracked up to be?(Consider the fake Nigerian prince email scams so many of us have received.) Listen to the experts. " says Julie Spira, a leading online dating expert, bestselling author of , and creator of profiles for singles via Cyber Dating "Dating sites (usually) take their members' safety issues very seriously and make it easy for you to report any suspicious profiles or serious problems right away.